How can we deal with our tendency to worry about everything and anything?

You are having a hard time sleeping, eating, or resting. You are thinking about a lot things that are happening in your life, to your family, to the people around you and in the world. You temper is easily provoked. The reason for all of these? You are always worried and stressed. But should you be? Is it even possible to have a worry-free life?

It is certainly challenging not to worry because of the many problems facing us. Consider the increasing crime rate, soaring prices, economic downturn, disastrous effects of natural calamities, conflicts in various parts of our country, corruption in the government, etc. Then, there are various concerns regarding our family. The health and safety of each member, security of our jobs, success in school and career, harmony of relationships, financial security, and many more.

Remember though that we are clearly commanded not to worry about tomorrow but let tomorrow worry about itself (Matthew 6:34). When we worry, we are in fact committing a sin against God because it is an indication that we do not completely trust Him. The physical, mental and emotional effects of too much worry can create so much havoc in our lives.

How can we deal with our tendency to worry about everything and anything? Spend more time with God in prayer and reflect on His promises to take care of us. Talk to people you trust on how to deal with personal concerns so that you may find the solutions instead of focusing on the worst-case scenario. Always remember that we have a God who is in control and who loves us. This is sufficient to assure us to trust in Him and not to worry.

  • Lift every concern to God and ask Him for peace. Read the promises of God in the Bible and other encouraging books.
  • Focus on your relationship with God and other people. Do action activities like pray, exercise, go out and have fun.
  • Be realistic. Ask yourself what is the worst that could happen (Willis Carrier Method) and whether your current anxieties will still matter after one year (from Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Dr Richard Carlson). From this perspective, you will realize that majority of your worries are unnecessary.
  • After praying, focus on the solutions instead of the problems. Take action.
  • If you are already experiencing the by-products of worry, go to the doctor to get treatment.
  • Freedom from Fear: Overcoming Worry and Anxiety by Neil T. Anderson and Rich Miller
  • I Don’t Want to Feel This Way: Handling Hurt, Worry, Anger, Loneliness, Impatience by William B. Girao
  • Today Counts by Harold J. Sala
  • 30 Days to Taming Your Stress by Deborah Smith Pegues
  • Ang Buhay na Hindi Bitin (How to live life content, blessed and worry free) by Eduardo O. Robeto, Jr.
  • Making Your Emotions Work for You (Coping with Stress, Avoiding Burnout, Overcoming Fear…and More) by Harold H. Sala
  • The word “stress” has no Filipino word equivalent. Many Filipinos will express their stress by complaining about recurring headaches, or abdominal pains, accompanied by dizziness, nausea, fatigue. (PCIJ)
  • Four out of five or 80% of Filipinos are suffering from non-communicable diseases (NCDs) due to stress or unhealthy lifestyle (2009 Duque)
  • Some of the major health problems in the country include cardiovascular diseases, cancer and diabetes.
  • One in every four adult Filipino has high blood pressure equal or higher than 140/90 mmHg while 11 in every 100 have BP reading of about 130-239/85-89 mmHg (FNRI-DOST).
  • OFWs are more vulnerable to stress caused by the dual burden of having work related struggles abroad and loneliness, plus dealing with domestic and family issues at home.
  • Months or years of working under stress, such as a call center agent, can cause heart problems, nervous breakdown, erectile dysfunction, fatigue, and many others.
With Gina’s help as a dressmaker, she and her husband, Jim, were able to support their family’s needs. But Jim’s diabetes and the possibility of her son losing his scholarship caused Gina to worry, leading to conflict with both her daughter and her mother. An incident will pave the way for this family to restore their relationships with one another. Learn how to live a worry-free life with the help of our DZAS radio counselor, Willy Basilio.