If you are one of the estimated 14 million “solo” or single parents in the Philippines, then you are doubly carrying the responsibility of raising up your child or children. For whatever reason that you are on your own (death of a spouse, separation or abandonment, previous adulterous relationship, etc.), being a mommy and a daddy at the same time is not easy.
However, even as a single parent, you are still required to bring up your children according to the teachings of the Bible. This includes the provision of physical and emotional care, instruction and discipline, and the modeling of Christian life. As mentioned in Prov. 22:6, you are to “train up your child in the way he should go so that he should not depart from it when he has grown.”
The challenges you will face will, of course, be a mixture of those common to families who have both parents and unique to those with a single parent. For that, you will need and must give an extra measure of grace as you cope with your different situation. Some of the typical problems are related to finances, loneliness, time management, budgeting, disciplining and decision making. The wonderful news is that God can provide you sufficient courage, strength and wisdom. For the times you are unable to respond to the concerns and needs of your kids, direct them to their Heavenly Father who is more than enough and will sustain your family.
All of this begins by recognizing and seeking His presence in your life and that of your children. You should also seek various types of support from godly people, which includes your actual and spiritual extended family. Remember always that God is your and your children’s hope for now and in the future.
- Make plans that will help you organize better your life as well as that of your child/children.
- Do not give up when troubles and challenges overwhelm you. Seek God’s help and comfort when you feel lonely.
- Seek a group of friends or a home church which can provide you with the emotional support when you feel down. Your family can also be there for you when you need help.
- Explain simply and clearly to your kids (when they are old enough) your family situation.
- Do not go back to a wrong relationship if it was the reason for being a single parent.
- Republic Act 8972 “Solo Parents Welfare Acts of 2000”
- Healthy Single Mommy: www.healthysinglemommy.com
- Solo Parents Association Philippines Inc. – www.singleparentphilippines.webs.com
- How to Win You Child’s Heart by Dr. Ruth C. Chang
- Jesus on Parenting by Teresa Whitehurst
- Raising Godly Kids by Harold J. Sala
- Train Up A Child and Be Glad You Did by Harold J. Sala
- Filipino parenting : www.pinoyparenting.com
- RA 8972 or “Solo Parents Welfare Acts of 2000” provides a comprehensive program of services for solo parents.
- A WHO-funded study by the Department of Health (DOH) and the University of the Philippines-National Institute for Health (UP-NIH) places the number of solo parents at 14 to 15 percent of estimated 94 million Filipinos.
- Many single Filipino mothers leave their children with grandparents to work abroad and financially provide for the future of their family.
Katrina, a single parent, struggles to raise her 6-year old daughter and 7-month old son by herself. The video looks at the way society views Katrina and describes her financial worries. This video demonstrates that the right choice may not necessarily be the easiest one.