Friend, don't tell anyone you got this from me. Do you know that...?

“Mare, wag mo sabihin sa kin galing ha. Alam mo ba …?” (Friend, don’t tell anyone you got this from me. Do you know that…?).

Being closely knit to our family and community, we Filipinos tend to talk about anything and everything. It doesn’t matter if it is in the rural villages, or posh communities, among poor folks or the high society, you will find men and women, either mixed or separated by gender, of varying ages, congregating together, and gossiping. We may use terms that are inherent to the group but it all boils down to one thing: we love to gossip.

And so the stories about our lives are transferred from one person to another. Either shared out of concern, for pure entertainment or unfortunately, with malicious aim. But whatever the intention, gossiping is a sin. It is never harmless. There is no way to go around it. Though guilty people often argue that it is one of the lesser sins, the Scriptures are clear that it is counted among sins like murder, disobedience, wickedness, etc. Remember that anything that is not pleasing to a holy God is sinful.

Keep in mind what is commanded in Ephesians 4: 29 : “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”(NIV)

Do not gossip and you will glorify God.

  • Refrain from participating in any form of gossip or slander. Listening also makes one a participant.
  • Remind yourself that if it would not uplift the person you are talking about, then the topic should not be discussed.
  • If the person or group you are with start gossiping, divert the conversation or rebuke them firmly but gently about it.
  • Do not air your grievances about someone to another person. Talk to the concerned person directly to settle any issue.
  • 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue by Deborah Smith Pegues
  • Between God and Me: A journey Through Proverbs by Vicki Courtney
  • The Problem of Gossip by F. Franklin Wise
  • Gossip and the Gospel by Timothy Williams
  • Tongues: Beyond the Upper Room by Kenneth E. Hagin
  • Filipinos love to discuss their lives as well as the lives of other people they do and do not know.
  • Google came up with more than 2 million entries for “gossip in the Philippines.”
  • The Filipino showbiz industry is alive with the latest gossip and celebrity news. Many Filipinos closely follow the intrigues of their favorite celebrities.
  • It is fairly common to hear people gossiping over the lives of the characters they’ve seen on teleseryes and teledramas.
  • Slander, a form of gossip, is a malicious and defamatory statement. In any other form, such as written or in pictures, it becomes a libel and can be brought to court for injuring a person’s reputation, for example.
  • The Supreme Court issued Administrative Circular No. 08-2008 , to provide for Guidelines in the Observance of a Rule of Preference in the Imposition of Penalties in Libel Cases.
She is a gossiping Christian herself who unkowingly influences her adolescent daughter, Jane, into enjoying Talk Shows because they are entertaining; unmindful of the bad values such shows promote. Through a comedy of errors, they see how much damage gossip can do and see first hand the “power of the tongue”.