“Forgive?! I will never forgive him for what he did!”
Who hasn’t gone through the difficult process of forgiving? We harbor anger and bitterness, often wanting revenge. This is especially true for what we consider as “major” sins like adultery, murder, betrayal, different forms of abuse, public humiliation, etc.
The reality is that when we do not forgive, it is we who suffer because we become imprisoned by our negative emotions and thoughts. We fall under the bondage of sin and our life becomes poisoned. This also holds true if we say we forgive yet we keep the memory of past sins.
God clearly wants us to forgive those who have sinned against us, regardless of size or extent of sin. Why? Because He forgave us. We can only experience the joy of God’s mercy if we become merciful towards others. We have to ask for His help because He alone can enable us to do that which is very difficult: to forgive completely.
How many times do we forgive? The Word of God says 77 x 7 or in other words, as many times as possible. Otherwise, anything we bring to God as worship or offering would be worth nothing. The advice for married couples to not let the sun go down with anger is applicable to all of us.
If you are the one asking forgiveness but was not forgiven, let go of the burden. Make sure though that you do not repeat the sin and instead show that you are sincere by changing. If the guilty person does not want to seek forgiveness, just settle the issue within yourself and forgive. God will deal with these persons.
Forgiveness is a choice. When you choose to forgive, you choose to be free and to glorify God.
- Remember God’s commandment that we should forgive those who have sinned against us.
- Spend time away from the guilty person. This will help the healing process.
- Decide to forgive and to let go of the hurt. Continue to ask God to heal your heart.
- For those who sought forgiveness from their sins must not wallow in self-pity. Acknowledge that God has forgiven you already.
- Do not keep the grudge within your heart.
- Be cautious towards a person who hurt you but refrain from bringing up past mistakes.
- The Freedom of Forgiveness – http://www.inspiredchristian.org/cyber/07/080107jr.html
- Handling Difficult People by Dr. John Townsend
- Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope by Robert D. Enright
- Majority of Filipinos are non-confrontational and do not discuss the issues troubling them but have the tendency to bring up past mistakes.