In fact, what does it mean to be a father? Do you feel capable of being called a dad, itay, ama, or papa? By visiting this site, it means that you are seeking to be a good father to your current or future children.
There is an old Filipino belief that fathers only need provide food on the table, shelter, and education. But this no longer holds true today. Fathers must recognize and acknowledge their responsibility in building a home.
Fathers are to provide their children with the kind of character and conviction that they need in order to grow up and be used by God. Thus, a father’s life should show his personal relationship with the Heavenly Father. To his sons, he would be a model on how to be a good provider and a mature spiritual guide. He must affirm his daughters so that they would have healthy relationships with God and other people. Most importantly, he must bring up his kids in the training and instruction of the Lord so that their paths would not stray.
It may seem challenging to be a father especially if you consider that you should also be a mender of lives, a healer of pains and a source of encouragement to your children. Remember that you just need to be faithful and seek God’s guidance. As mentioned in the Scriptures, if you lack wisdom, ask God and He is able to provide you what you need.
- Your role as a father is very important to the growth and maturity of your children.
- Spend quality time with your children. Encourage and affirm them in their journey in life.
- Make every aspect of your life an example that your children could follow. This includes your close relationship with our Heavenly Father and your care and respect for your wife/their mother.
- Do not place unreasonable expectations on your children. Guide them as they discover what God wants them to do with their lives.
- A father’s job is never done even if your children become legally adults. Let them know that they could always return to you for guidance and encouragement.
- Your relationship with your daughter will define her relationship with men and her future husband, and for your son, in how he would treat his future family.
- If you feel you have been a negligent or an abusive father, seek forgiveness from God and from your children. Change your ways and start building healthy relationships with them.
- Raising Filipino Boys : www.raisingfilipinoboys.com
- Fatherhood: http://www.fatherhood.org/
- Rising to the Challenge of Christian Fatherhood: http://www.crosswalk.com/1396893/
- Christian Fathers : http://www.christianfathers.com/
- You Have What It Takes: What Every Father Needs to Know by John Eldredge
- A Legacy of Faith: Things I Learned from my Father by Ruth Graham
- Straight Talk to Men: Timeless Principles for Leading Your Family by Dr. James Dobson
- Help, I’m Getting Married by Dr. Eli Javier
- How to be a Man of Character in a World of Compromise: Insights from the Books of Proverbs by Richard Exley
- Man of Valor: Every Man’s Quest for a Life of Honor and Characterby Richard Exley
- Father’s Day (3rd Sunday of June) is widely observed in the Philippines.
- Life expectancy of men (67,6 years old) is lower than that of women (73,1 years old).
- Republic Act 9255 (March 2004) allows illegitimate children to use the surname of their fathers to remove/diminish the shame and stigma which accompanies illegitimacy.
- RA 9262 or “anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004” provides for criminal sanctions or penalties against the father for failure to provide support for the children.
- There are more OFW males (1 034 000) than females (968 000).
- The labor force participation rate of men is 78.8% while that of women is 49.3%. There is also a higher unemployment for men (7.4% vs 6.7%)
David realizes that it is possible for him to be present at home and still be an absentee dad. He learns the importance of being emotionally available for his family as he experiences the consequences of his non-involvement. David realizes that he is parenting his children the way his own father did and discovers he needs to reconcile some issues of his own.