Domestic Violence

No one wants to talk about it because it is shameful for those involved that they keep it a secret.

“One in five women aged 15-49 experienced physical violence since age 15.” This is according to the 2008 National Demographic and Health Survey (NDHS) of the National Statistics Office (NSO). And in more than half of the cases (54.7%), the perpetrator of the violence is the husband or partner.

It is often difficult to understand why different kinds of violence, may it be physical, sexual, economic, emotional or verbal, happen inside the home. It is supposed to be the place where a wife or mother could and should be safe. The reality is, this is happening and should be dealt with by the couple and the society. Sadly, many women are afraid to speak out. They are frightened with the possibility that they would be hurt more and that people would not believe them. Another factor is that there are many who grew up in homes where violence was common and thus, they wrongly believed that spousal abuse was a normal situation.

The Bible clearly instructs a husband to love his wife as Christ loves His church and as he loves his own body. No one hates his own body. In fact, he feeds and cares for it. This should also be the way to treat his wife, the light of the home.

If you are experiencing violence in your home, know that there is no valid reason or excuse for this to happen. The first thing to do is admit that violence is taking place in your relationship. Then, tell someone you trust so that you could get help. It could be another family member or relative, a very good friend or a leader in your church. Some may not believe you at first, if so, look for another person who could help you start the healing process.

For those who know or hear about someone being battered inside the home, help prevent this from continuing. This is not only a personal problem between a couple but a social sickness that should be dealt with.

Get help. God wants you to be loved the way He loves His children.

  • For women suffering violence in the home, speak to a close relative or friend about the situation. Domestic violence should not be kept a secret.
  • Women (or men) should get out of the relationship. A “crisis separation” must happen for the healing to begin.
  • The husband and wife should be reminded that the Bible says “for husbands to love their wives as their own body.” Seek counseling.
  • Churches must provide a physical and emotional haven for battered women so that they know where to get help
  • Usapang Pamilya Video “Dahas”
  • Department of Social Welfare and Development:
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  • Philippine Commission on Women:
  • Other statistics on violence against women:
  • Lihok Pilipina Foundatiion, Inc.:
  • Legal Issues and Family Matters:
  • In 2004, the Philippine government passed Republic Act (RA) 9262 or the Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act.
  • One in five women aged 15-49 experienced physical violence since age 15. Almost 4 out of 100 pregnant women experience physical violence (3.6%)! This also puts the unborn baby at risk.
  • Almost one in 10 women aged 15-49 experienced sexual violence.
  • Among married women, 14.4% of experienced physical violence perpetrated by their husbands while 8.0% experienced sexual violence.
  • The most common form of marital control is the husband getting jealous or angry when the woman communicates with other men (30.3%), followed by husbands insisting on knowing where she is at all times (17.8%) and frequently accuses her of being unfaithful (12.6%).
  • Among women who have experienced physical or sexual violence, 26.9% fought back verbally, 21.2% fought back physically, and only 17.5% sought help to try to stop the violence.
  • Between 2008-2009, cases of violence against women (VAW) reported to the Philippine National Police (PNP) rose by 37.4% (from 6,905 in 2008 to 9,485 in 2009) while cases of women in especially difficult circumstances (WEDC) served by the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD) increased by 32.1% (from 10,630 in 2008 to 14,040 in 2009). This data indicates that a lot of cases go unreported.

Recent current events have brought this secret family tragedy to the public eye. View a drama that portrays what goes on in too many homes today and then learn how to get help for those involved.